It’s been two and a half years now since I started my holistic business. During that time, I have had the absolute pleasure of meeting some truly gifted, wonderful and compassionate teachers, mentors, leaders, friends and clients. When you work within this spiritual field, it can only be described as a blessing because you are there to help others, you are healing, whether that be hands-on or simply through the art of listening to someone.
I remember when my Reiki Master was asked if she has ever met any challenging people along her own spiritual business journey. She had, in fact, had a negative experience with someone, which she duly learnt her lesson from and her explanation to what happened was put simply “where there is light, there will always be darkness. You can’t have one without the other.”.
I thought on this and realised that she is right, especially when we look at this work as energy work, that is the bread and butter of it “energy work”. Energy, vibrations, magnets. Like attracts like….and sometimes, the good attracts the bad, the empath attracts the narcissist.
The low, dark, deeply negative soul, whose vibrational frequency spins much slower than the optimistic, joyful, positive energy who only ever seeks out the best, the trust, the honesty, the best way forward, even in their darkest of times. The negative soul will search out the positive soul in order to feed. They will drink up this energy to seek reassurance, to seek accountability for their own life’s happiness, to shift their own life responsibilities onto someone else. Every person can flit between energies at times when I talk about these darker energies I’m talking about the ones that live toxic lifestyles. Here are some personality traits:
Now, I am not a psychologist or a councillor. But what I am is a highly intuitive individual who works in the field of helping others. It has taken me half my life to now recognise souls that are vibrating on this low-level frequency. In the past it has taken me months, years even to figure out these types of people (sound familiar?). But now, I can normally figure it out on an introductory meeting. How do I know?
My gut screams at me “Be Aware, Be Very Aware!”. I just feel very very strange when I am in their presence.
Now, this is not the same feeling as “Blimey, this person is hard work. Not sure if we are going to gel. Not sure if I like this person, to be honest”. It’s not the same because I can guarantee you after chatting to that said person that we will click eventually or I will understand that our frequencies are out of line, so we are not gelling like I would with someone that is on my plane, if I meet that person, the room is on fire. We click, we bond, its instant and it makes me feel SO GOOD. It’s like I have had a battery charge and I feel inspired, motivated, I have found one of my “people”.
Because we are all vibrating on our own frequency, we need to find those that are too. There doesn’t have to be a vast difference in frequencies, in fact, you can be rather different, but what you have to be careful of is those that are really, really vibrating on that low-density vibration. They will be seeking you out, I promise you, they will see your light shine from across the room.
Where is this blog post leading to I hear you ask? Did I meet one of these people recently? Yes, I did. Of course, I did, it inspired me to write this blog. I can’t tell you too much about this person but what I want to tell you about is that I knew from “hello” that this person was starting to suck on my energy field like a leech on a fresh chunky thigh. On every subsequent meeting, after I tried to “help” this person (way out of my remit to be fair) I knew that they would turn and show their true colours. They did do it and it was not a surprise to me at all.
There is so much in hindsight I should have done. I should have said hello and goodbye and be done with it (I will next time). However, I did want to help this person (even though now I know I cannot help these types of energies. Remember what I said, you get negatives and positives. I can certainly help those that are negatives and are good people (you are not a bad person if you are really negative – far from it!) but the type of people I am talking about here is EXTREME.) I’m talking about the type of people that treat animals badly, that can’t love others, that thrive on destruction, pain and the failure of other human beings so that it makes their life feel better.
So, next time, I will refuse (politely and professionally) to work with this type of person.
The whole point of this blog post is to tell you what to do when you meet one of these people. Or should I say, trying to remove them from your life? Now, I appreciate that some people may be very intertwined with one of these energies, and advice on this is probably outside of the scope of this blog post (and something I can certainly write about in the future).
In this post, I am talking about someone that you have removed out of your life because they are awful energies and what to do to break the energy link with them, especially when they are an energy vampire.
This is what I did to remove the bad energy from my energy field:
Before I end this blog post I would like to put my own opinion across on why some people turn out this way. I have my theories. We are all born pure right? Nature, nurture or whatever shapes and conditions us? Does it? Who knows, I think it’s a big old bag of, karma, what you did to others in another life, how you were brought up in this life, what you have been through, where you sit on your soul journey…..whatever it is, shine your light as bright as you can to attract your people. Leave the lower ones to their own, send them on their merry way with love.
I want to stress something else before I end this post. We do have to meet these types of people. It is good for us to be tested, to go through bad experiences, to learn, to grow. Life isn’t all stardust and rainbows. Without the bad stuff, how do we know what the good stuff is? So like I say, have the experience, embrace the lesson and then cut them off and move on. They did their job when they were around you once before, no point delaying the agony once your chapter on it is closed.
Until next time,